| Choosing the right person to seduce
is more a matter of instinct than anything else. After all, most
of us attempt to make conversation, or at least some eye
contact, with a potential partner who we consider to be about as
attractive as we feel we are.
Once you've sought out your potential mate, you have to
decide whether the time and situation is right. If the person
you desire is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time and
place being wrong may add to the thrill, i.e. the forbidden
fruit. If you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that
the other person is interested, but not being able to do
anything about it, at least at that particular moment, can
increase your feelings of arousal and excitement.
From here on out, this will be written from the male
perspective, but can be equally applied to the female point of
view.
The Approach
How do you know whether she's interested in you in the first
place? Her actual body language is a better indicator of how she
feels about you than anything she says verbally. For instance,
women with an open posture are usually more amenable than those
who stand with their arms crossed. Small gestures and tone of
voice tell us a lot about how she might perceive us. Eye-contact
is also very revealing. With experience, you'll get a 'feel'
whether she's interested or not.
Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on
women’s signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something'
and at least have a chance. Playing hard-to-get isn't
particularly attractive to men unless there are enough signals
sent out to assure that the woman is indeed 'gettable' and that
the chase will be worth doing.
The Follow-Up
Once you've made contact with her, you'll need to let her
know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have
very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important
that you both know that you're looking for the same things. You
should probably not blurt out something too obvious. You can,
and that may work, but in general, the subtle approach is more
likely to succeed.
You then ask her questions and try to access whether you'd
make a satisfactory sex partner. If everything goes along
smoothly, there might be a slightly tense, but hopefully,
pleasant exchange of ‘self-probing’ back and forth conversation.
People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner
when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a
non-committal way.
Now that you're speaking, you have to sustain her interest.
Two people, who may have been attracted to each other visually,
may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of
seduction. Look for signs of acceptance or rejection. If you
pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on
something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how
attractive she might be. There are plenty of other fish in the
sea.
If you're still doing fine and the signals are good (and you
haven’t gotten slapped), it's time to move onto the ‘kill’.
13 Things to Know
As a quick summary, here are 13 important ideas that you need
to be aware of to get the girl of your dreams. The first 4 are
actually things to avoid, while the rest should be followed.
Whether you’re on the prowl or already on a date, if you
apply these concepts you will increase your chances of getting
women to be more interested in you. Maybe even possibly enough
to fall in love and have wonderful sex with you.
NEVER, ever look at another woman when on a date. It’s rude,
disrespectful and can hurt her feelings.
NEVER, ever make comments about her weight or any other
subject she might feel self-conscious of.
NEVER, ever use the time-of-the-month crack for any reason.
There could be many reasons besides her ‘period’ to explain her
moody or bitchy behavior.
NEVER, belch or do any other embarrassing bodily functions in
front of her. Leave that for the guys’ poker night.
Be honest about you feelings. Don’t string along a woman just
for sex if you have no intentions for an emotional commitment.
Unless that’s all she wants as well, but you need to make sure
what are her intentions beforehand.
Compliment her on her clothes, and how good and sexy she
looks.
Always listen to what she has to say.
Pay attention to her and make her feel important and special.
As follow-up, buy her flowers, candy, cards, etc. to make her
feel loved and wanted.
Be a gentleman by opening the door, pouring her drinks, etc.
Make an effort to get along with her family and friends, as
difficult as that can be sometimes.
Don’t lose contact with you own friends
Treat her exactly how you would like to be treated.
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